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The Happiness of Sense Contacts
2. Deva Happiness
3. The Happiness of Concentration
4. The Happiness of Insight
“We have in common one thing that is the driving force behind everything do – our search for happiness. Everybody looks for happiness but very few people find it. The first and second noble truths of the Buddha’s teaching clearly state that worldly happiness is a myth, yet we never give up hope of achieving it. This is good, as we would otherwise be constantly depressed at not having found what could make us unconditionally happy.”
The Buddha spoke about four
different kinds, or grades, of happiness. The first one arises because
of contacts made through the sense. The Buddha compared these to a skinned
cow, where flies are sitting on the raw flesh, constantly causing irritation.
This is an in-depth understanding of our sense contacts. The Buddha
also mentions sensory contacts as the first means of gaining some happiness.
Most people remain at that stage. We can’t always get the pleasure we
are seeking and even when we do get it, it escapes us again and again,
so that there is no chance of constant happiness through our senses.
There is happiness at those times when the sense contacts are pleasant.
There is unhappiness when the sense contacts are unpleasant, when the
body is uncomfortable or we don’t hear the words we’d like to hear,
we don’t taste what we like or we smell what is unpleasant or see sights
which we’d prefer not to see. Nobody avoids such experiences in life.
It’s impossible to go through the whole lifetime without unpleasant
sense contacts.
It’s impossible to go through the whole lifetime without pleasant sense
contacts. We have, one might say, a fifty-fifty possibility, if we have
good kamma. Half the time our contacts are pleasant and fine and half
the time they are not. Most people keep on trying to increase the pleasant
contacts and hope to make them happen one hundred percent of the time,
which is impossible. There’s no chance of success, yet most people continue
to try. Most of us blame external events when unpleasant or painful
feelings make us unhappy. The real reason, of course, lies inside us
because of our reactions to sense contacts.
The more a person is purified, the more pleasant sense contacts will
be. A pure heart and mind will find enjoyment in the simplest things.
In a beautiful sky, lovely greenery, a pleasant conversation.
Anyone who has not purified themselves very much might not even notice
these things. They might never look at the sky or the greenery. They
might search for pleasant contact through much grosser possibilities.
Drink or drugs, indulgence in food or sex might seem their only obvious
sources of enjoyment.
There is nothing intrinsically wrong with enjoying the pleasures of
the sense when they are harmless and refined. The Buddha called them
a danger though because we so easily make them our goal and direction;
we try to get more and more of them or to keep them, try to make them
permanent, not to lose them. That’s what goes wrong with us, because
it’s an untenable proposition. There’s no way that we can make it come
true. No sense contact can be permanent. In fact it would become very
unpleasant if that were the case. There’s also no way of making sure
that we get pleasant sensations. Trying for them takes up our time and
energy and leaves no room in our lives for meaningful pursuits.
Our senses are with us. We can’t deny them and there’s no reason to
do so. But it is possible through mindfulness, to realize that the pleasure
we get through mindfulness, to realize that the pleasure we get through
them is fool’s gold. It glitters but it has not value. The glitter can
be enjoyed but one should not attach any importance to it. Yet again
and again problems arise for people, because they can’t get what they
want through the senses.
The next step in happiness is called the deva happiness. But it doesn’t
mean that we have to become devas, that we have to first die and then
get reborn in the deva realm; that sounds like pie in the sky. It doesn’t
seem to have any bearing on our present lives.
The deva happiness is the happiness that comes to a person who has cultivated the four divine abidings, the four emotions of loving-kindness, compassion, joy with others and equanimity. That kind of happiness can be compared to living in heaven upon earth. Such happiness is independent of the five senses and only dependent upon our own minds.
The underlying
condition is the purification of the heart so that it contains only
lovingness and compassion. Both lovingness and compassion are qualities
of the heart, just as intelligence is a quality of the mind, and they
can be cultivated. When that has been done, happiness is one’s own.
Other people benefit also, but the primary result is one’s own happiness
because the heart is totally independent of being influenced by outside
occurrences. Whatever people do or say, what happens or doesn’t happen
in the world has no bearing on oneself. When the quality of the heart
has been cultivated and has been made pure and full of love and compassion,
nothing can touch it. There’s peace, harmony, ease and a feeling of
security in heart and mind.
This is a far greater happiness than the pleasure obtained through one
of the senses. While in itself it does not lead to or have as its result
liberation, it is a necessary ingredient on the path. Lovingness and
compassion alone don’t produce insight. They smooth the waves of emotions.
When those waves of grief, pain, lamentation, worry, fear and anxiety,
envy and jealousy, dislike and resentment have finally come to rest,
there is a clear reflection without any obscuring ripples in it, like
a mirror, the mirror of the mind. That mirror of the mind makes it possible
to get a clear vision. Without cultivating these purifying qualities
it’s not possible to develop further.
It’s all very well to understand, to know and to quote, but it doesn’t
take one to the end of suffering. The waves of emotion are obstructive.
They not only get in the way of clear vision, they even obstruct the
vision of the path itself. When there are waves, one can no longer see
where one is going. Indeed one might even forget that one is going anywhere
at all.
The happiness of the deva realm doesn’t depend upon rebirth. It’s possible
right here and now. It’s internal work which can be done by anyone at
any time. There are no special times such as meditation courses or special
people who can do it. This is a happiness which of itself, without going
any further, creates a different kind of life for the one who has done
the internal work.
The third kind of happiness is the happiness of concentration which
comes from meditation. That too is only possible if one has achieved
purification in moral conduct, generosity and loving-kindness in the
heart. It doesn’t require perfection because that is reserved for the
Arahant. It does require some expansion of heart and mind.
The happiness one gets from concentration is glimpsed often by meditators.
But one needs to cultivate such concentration and practice diligently
to enter into the meditative absorptions. There are different degrees
of meditative absorptions resulting in different degrees of joy, bliss
and ecstasy. They all enable the mind to carry some happiness with it
even outside meditation.
A person who can enter meditative absorption and experienced that kind of happiness is someone who can find happiness even when the sense contacts are unpleasant. Such people know they can return to the happiness of the concentration, the meditative absorptions at any time. Knowing that creates a feeling of ease in the heart because nothing else appears to have great significance. When a person is able to go into the meditative absorptions at will for the length of time they wish, that becomes their reality and not the quarrels and the arguments, the inflation and the wars, the future or the past and all the other things that people worry about. None of that has real significance.
The reality lies within the happiness of the meditative absorptions. The meditative absorptions also prepare the mind. They give the mind not only the ability to be happy, but also the mind that has gained strength. The ordinary mind finds it very difficult to stand still. It has a jelly-like quality. It shakes constantly. It doesn’t need a trigger – that’s its natural mode of behavior. It doesn’t have the strength to penetrate the brick wall of delusion. It’s not a very good tool, is it? Jelly disintegrates at the slightest contact. A jelly-like mind disintegrates at the slightest blame, at the slightest worry or fear, at the slightest bodily discomfort. A jelly-like mind goes to pieces. What else can it do?
A mind that can stand still is a mind that has the quality of a rock, solid, unmoving. A rock is a better tool than jelly with which to penetrate a brick wall. A rock-like mind isn’t going disintegrate at the slightest impact. It has the strength of a finely honed tool, with which we can pierce this apparent reality in which we live and reach absolute reality.
There are eight different stages of meditative absorption and they are like eight rooms in a house. If one has finally found the front door with the right key and opens it up and goes into the first room, there is no reason why one can’t walk into all of there seven rooms also. It is not so difficult to find the front door and put the key in. The key is called mindfulness of breath and the front door is found when one continues with determination and perseverance to keep on meditating. One doesn’t sit back and say, “That’s enough, my knees are hurting”, or “what’s the use?” or “Maybe next life,” or “it’s too difficult,” or any of the many other excuses.
The Buddha said, ‘A fool says: “it’s too early, it’s too late. It’s too hot. It’s too cold. I’m too full. I’m too empty.”’ The front door is there for everyone to find. We have the key. We have to fit it into the lock. When we open the odor, we find that the rooms in this house are splendid. The splendor is within our own hearts and minds but at present it’s locked up. We have no access unless we create it through meditation. Most people never unlock it because they don’t know what the key is nor do they know that here is such an entrance. We are very fortunate to know the door and there may already be a small opening through which the light is shining.
When the concentration has been constant for some time the mind becomes very quiet and so does the body. Every single moment of concentration is a moment of purification. The defilements which beset us, causing our unhappiness and defaulters, are momentarily laid aside. The more often we lay them aside, the less habitual they become. The more often we can concentrate, the more often we are without them. Having a pure, bright mind then becomes our second nature.
Concentration starts out with the experience of pleasant feelings. These pleasant feelings arise because the mind at that stage is untroubled. This indicates clearly that if one were untroubled and had a pure, bright mind at all times, one would constantly have pleasant feelings. Here we get an indication of what is possible, which makes us ant this state more often. This desire for the wholesome and beneficial will eventually bring us to the point of no desire, finally eliminating all dissatisfaction.
Concentration starting out with pleasant feelings goes on to the next stage, where there’s happiness. Again this is a clear indication that the pure mind knows only happiness. If there’s unhappiness, there’s impurity. The two go together. A happy person doesn’t gain joy through sensual desires, because they know how elusive such joys are. A truly happy person is someone who is joyfully independent of outer conditions. Such a person can concentrate and thereby find a home for the mind where it can be totally at ease. But also that person has achieved purification to the point where unhappiness no longer arises. Unhappiness is caused by defilements. When unhappiness arises we can investigate its cause and invariably we will find an underlying defilement. If we don’t find that, we haven’t investigated well enough.
In the concentrated states the mind lets go of the five hindrances. When pleasant feelings and happiness have arisen, peacefulness and equanimity follow. Equanimity results in a feeling of having no desire left. Sometimes people even think that they have become permanently desireless, which is, of, a misconception. But at least for that moment there’s no desire.
That in itself is a very valuable experience in as much as one gets to know a state of no desire’. It’s utter bliss, the only bliss worth having. When one experiences it, then one knows what one is striving for. One isn’t striving to get anything. One is striving to get rid of everything. This is an interesting misconception in most people’s minds. When one first starts meditating one hopes to get peace, happiness and bliss, some of which may actually arise but only if one has let go of something else. Namely one has to let go of some of our ego-supports and most of our desires.
When the bliss of ‘no desire’ is experienced momentarily we know that’s what we really want. But we have to see clearly that it isn’t the bliss as such but the cause for it which needs cultivating. That means renunciation, giving up. Without renunciation, life is a constant striving for something. Renunciation is the answer to all kinds of achievement syndromes, not just in the material world, but even in the spiritual world. Trying to achieve something in the spiritual world is just as foolish as trying to achieve something in the material world. There’s nothing to achieve. There’s only letting go. As we let go, more and more, of ego identifications, desires and support systems, bliss will arise. Happiness which arises through concentration is based upon purity. A similar happiness can be experienced in one’s daily life if purity has been cultivated. In the meditative practice pleasant feelings, happiness and equanimity become deeper and more profound than in daily living, but unless one has already attained some purity in one’s ordinary life, one won’t be able to do it in meditation either. Daily living and meditation go hand in hand. The harder it is to get a pleasant feeling in meditation, the more purification one needs to practice. There’s no blame attached to any of this. These are just states of development.
The greatest happiness, the fourth stage, is the happiness of insight.
This is irreversible. Insight, in Buddhist terminology, is always directed
towards impermanence, unsatisfactoriness and non-self, either one of
the three or all three. If one sees one of the three characteristics
clearly, then one knows all of them because they are totally interconnected.
The happiness and bliss of total insight means that one has shed the
burden of ego delusion. When one can let go of that, the relief and
release is immense. Ramana Maharshi, who was a sage in southern India,
compared ego delusion to people taking a train journey. They enter the
train and stand in the aisle holding on to their luggage instead of
putting it in the luggage rack and letting the train carry it. Like
this we carry the burden of ego around with us when we need not. Ego
delusion makes everything seem to be threatening or attacking us, or
occasionally defending us, difficult to master, an obstacle, like a
mountain which has to be climbed. It can make life look quite difficult.
Defilements are either wanting or hating, being without energy or being
worried, anxious, resisting or defending one’s own viewpoint. ‘But when
one lives quite free from any view, is virtuous with perfect insight
won’ – that’s a description of an Arahant. Our own viewpoints are our
downfall. The minute we start defending them we can be sure that we
are only defending ego. The defense of a viewpoint is an indication
that it is not based on experience. Experience needs no defense. The
Buddha’s teaching is experiential. Viewpoints are based on ego. None
of them are absolute truth.
Insight into the constant flux and flow of all phenomena, including
ourselves, brings the understanding that there’s nothing in this world
worth keeping, worth holding on to. Insight releases one from that resistance
to other people’s viewpoints which can make life so immensely difficult.
Other people have other viewpoints. The only answer to that is: May
they live long and happily.’
Attachment to one’s own viewpoint only shows that one hasn’t yet grasped
impermanence. When one sees constant change in everything, so that one
can never really say ‘I am this,’ then a first breakthrough into depth
perception happens. Which one am I? Am I the one sitting here who had
a good meditation yesterday, or the one who had a lot of distractions
today, or the one who’s angry or the one who’s resisting, or the one
who’s accepting and devoted? Which one? If I’m all of those, what a
conglomeration of people I am! I must be a whole tribe of people instead
of just one.
So either I’m none or I’m all of them. We’ll have to make a choice.
If we don’t want to be ‘none,” then, of course, we choose to be all
of them. Then we have to imagine that there are at least a million different
people in oneself. That’s not an exaggeration, because by this time
in our lives we must have had one million different ideas, feelings,
viewpoints, reactions over the years, in this lifetime alone. If we
chose to be that many different people, life becomes even more complicated
than if we were none of them. How about choosing to be none of them?
This insight is very threatening to our ego concept. Why is that? Because
I want to be! To be what? To be whom? To be where? For what reason?
All are viewpoints, conditioned through our thinking processes. The
happiness which arises when one lets go of all that, is the happiness
which is embedded in acceptance and peacefulness. Nothing needs to be
achieved, accomplished or changed. All is as it is.
The four stages of happiness which start with sensual desire and lead
through into insight are a continual purification process. The only
way any of this can be verified is through our own experience. For that
our own inner work has to have propriety. There are no holidays when
doing that work, whether we are at the beach or in the meditation hall,
driving a car or flying in an airplane.
There’s no respite. In order to graduate from sensual desire we can
put our attention on service to others. That means on love and compassion.
Service to others means forgetting self. When one gives service to others,
it doesn’t mater whether one is helping them to wash their feet or helping
them to meditate. There’s no difference. Love is service, service is
love. Concentration is supported by the lovingness in one’s heart. One
of the eleven benefits of loving-kindness is that the mind is quickly
concentrated.
Concentration must not be considered the goal and the end. It is only
the means. It is the means for cultivating a mind which is able to penetrate
reality. There are two kinds of reality; relative and absolute. Everyone
knows relative reality. There we find woman and man, young and old,
poor and rich stupid and intelligent.
There are animals, trees, flowers, stars, moon and heaven, and all are
judged whether they make me happy. In absolute reality, there’s none
of that. There are physical manifestations of mind-made objects. That’s
all. There isn’t a single me nor a single you. Nothing just manifestations
that are constantly changing. Even the universe is constantly changing,
contracting and expanding. And so are we.
The mind that has become concentrated, happy and peaceful is a mind
that can accept this constantly changing universe and use it for it
own benefit. The mind that is not peaceful rejects such reality out
of hand and says ‘but I want to be happy.’ That’s the mind of most people
in the world. The mind which doesn’t need any outer conditions for happiness
is the mind that can say, “This is the release from all suffering. This
is true happiness.”
Such a mind sees with clarity the absolute reality of what’s happening
in this universe and doesn’t have to hang on to anything, attach to
anything, doesn’t have to become anything, doesn’t have to be anything.
It just does what is necessary at each particular moment and then lets
go.
The happiness of insight is not exhilaration or elation. It’s the sort
of happiness which has peacefulness as its base and a lack of desire,
striving and delusion as its result. When delusion is gone, the pure
bright mind knows only that which is real.